My father was in the military and we traveled around a lot during my childhood. My mother, however, was born in the South and lived there until she married my father. When dad retired, we moved to Texas and there we stayed for the majority of my high school years and for college. Even after college I remained there, working and living for decades.
Those of you who have lived in the south understand what I’m about to say. My grandmother and mom never went out of the house without a “face” on. They had their hat, hair and heels in place, because you just never knew who you might encounter, or what might happen, and you had to be prepared.
Then there were the warnings: you better have clean underwear…just in case, makeup on and hair styled…just in case, dressed and pressed—until you were ready for a catalog photo shoot—even if you were only heading to the grocery store…just in case. Maybe because you were going to the store; goodness knows it was the hotspot of gossipy congregation.
When it came to being powder-puffed and perfect, my mom was up there with the best of them. She never seemed to sweat, her hair never flopped or frizzed; even her clothes refused to wrinkle as if to do so would be considered rude. I always envied my mother that because I didn’t inherit that gene. ‘You just never know’ didn’t stick, though I wanted it to. Instead, I’ve gone through life wrinkled and rumpled, and my hair and makeup never quite right.
But still, ‘you just never know’ did resonate with me. This past week I was reminded of the vagaries of life and why it’s important to be ready to say ‘yes’ when opportunities plow into you.
I was honored to be a guest on the You Tube show, “The Early Late Night Live Show” last Wednesday night, especially since we were encouraged to dress up for Halloween, which I adore. The show had a lovely lady for a guest host, and we talked afterward. When the topic of podcasts came up, I told her that as an author I was interested in doing podcasts to get my name in front of the public, and to my delight, this lady not only asked to interview me for an online community paper, but she helped me get an appearance on a local radio show.
Without hesitation, I said yes to both. I had experienced a ‘you just never know’ moment. The point is, when you have opportunities pop up like that, be ready to say ‘yes’ even if you feel uncomfortable or unsure, even at the risk of looking silly. There was a time when I was younger that I would have done most anything to not look silly, but I suppose when you have lived a few decades, humiliation becomes as fuzzy and muted as your vision.
Be willing to fail, be willing to laugh at yourself, be willing to walk through that open door rather than waiting for the next one to open. And if you need a boost in confidence, pack an extra pair of underwear…because you just never know.
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