One of the greatest gains with age for me has been a comfort with myself. Don’t get me wrong, I definitely have flaws and main things I don’t like, but I’ve also come to some degree of acceptance and understanding of who I am and what I can or cannot do well. As I watch my kids start school and get older, self-acceptance is something I’m ever watchful for with them. Kids can be cruel and so can this world. As a parent, you want your children to build a tough skin to navigate life but at the same time you feel the need to protect them from the situations that might build this so called tough skin. After all, how many of us have a thick enough skin ourselves?
The truth is, I’m not sure what makes each of us accepting of ourselves. Why is it that some of us cannot see our good traits even if they were magnified times a hundred while others can’t see anything beyond themselves? Neither is an idea situation but my guess is that most of us tend to focus more on our flaws than anything positive. We do it with the rest of life too—gravitating towards the latest negative gossip or tragic news story. It is hard to admit but as a society we tend to point out others’ flaws so easily because the hope is they’ll eclipse our own. But none of us are perfect and that’s okay. Those imperfections make us uniquely human and the faster we accept them, the happier we’ll be.
Happy writing this week!