Mid-January Check In

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by C. Margery Kempe

It’s the middle of January: how are you doing?

Specifically, how are those resolutions going? Experts say you can develop a habit after just a few weeks, so it’s not too soon to ask about them. The more you remain mindful of the process, the better you are likely to do. Don’t berate yourself if you miss a day, but reward yourself in some pleasurable way if you do keep up with your plans.

If you find yourself faltering a lot and feeling like a failure, don’t!

Chances are you tried to make too many changes all at once — or you made a lot of vague, self-flagellating promises that weren’t at all realistic. If you have a whole list of things that you wanted to change, put them in order.

What’s the most important one? Put that first. Then choose what will be next. Keep doing that with the rest, too. Better to focus on one at a time, and move on after success; it’s easier to build on success than to set up a recipe for failure.

If you’re flagging, make sure that you have defined your proposed change with clear outcomes and specific changes. If you told yourself I’m going to write a lot more! you’re making things more difficult. Consider how much you usually write in a day; now add another quarter or third to that. Push yourself a bit at a time, rather than overdo it and then allowing the project to languish.

Reward yourself; it doesn’t have to be a big reward. Consider something like telling yourself, I’m going to write for half an hour and then I get to read a book I’ve been saving up for another half hour. It doesn’t matter what the reward is, provided it’s something that makes you yearn to reach it — something that helps you reach your goal is that much better!

(I’m doing a series on “How to Keep Writing with a Full Time Job” over at my other name’s blog. If one of your resolutions is to write more, you may find it helpful.)

How do you reward yourself for sticking to resolutions?

About C. Margery Kempe

A writer of erotic romance: see my website, www.cmkempe.com for a taste of my work including free stories, book trailers and more.
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2 Responses to Mid-January Check In

  1. Mary Roya says:

    I make the same resolutions every year, lose weight, stop over spending and write more. Althought I just added writing. When I lose weight, I get new clothes or I just feel happy. Still working on the spending thing. On the writing, it just makes me want to write more. So I guess I really don’t reward my self.

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