It seems when you tell someone you are a romance writer, you still hear snickering. Then start the comments and questions, such as: “If you ever need any research for your love scenes, I’m your man” (I’m thinking “in your dreams, jerk”) or you may get, “Where do you come up with the ideas for your books?” or “Do you think you will actually ever get published” or “Get your head out of the clouds and get a real job.” or “Don’t you ever get tired of sitting all day and writing make-believe?” and the best one, “Do you really think you would ever make enough money to replace your “day job” by writing books?”
When someone snickers about me being a romance writer, my inner goddess smiles because I know the person I’m speaking to is not educated in the current market trends. The person doesn’t know that romance novels sell more than any other genre. I generally find the person making fun of the romance genre often times is not a reader and has never even read a romance novel.
I don’t mind answering questions about where my ideas come from, because way back in the day before I ever dreamed I would be a novelist, I asked the same question of Stephen King, and he was kind enough to take the time to give me an answer.
I don’t mind explaining that writing is my real job and although I’m only a debut author, I do expect that one day I will be able to support myself financially from the income my writing career provides. My answer to the folks asking this question is, “Do you think Stephen King or Nora Roberts have day jobs?” I ignore them and keep writing because success is the best revenge.
I never get tired of sitting all day and writing make-believe. Personally, I love having my head in the clouds, creating worlds of romance with happily ever after endings, because life generally doesn’t give you that. I love writing about two people being swept off their feet by a love so strong nothing could stand in their way.
When people ask me what I hate about being a writer, I have to say … nothing. I love everything about it. I don’t even mind the rejection letters. Every published author has gotten rejections, so I am in good company. I just look at those letters and say to myself, “One day when they are making my NYT best-selling book into a movie, you will be sorry you didn’t say yes.” Yes, I believe big. I shoot for the moon … because even if I missed my goal, I would still land among the stars, and that’s a pretty good place to be.
How do you handle the Nay Sayers?